• Are you a writer?
  • Add these articles to your site!
  • Articles - Parenting E-Mail article - Print article - Rate article   

    A Hill to Stand and Fight On

    By Glenn A. Hascall     

    A package of AA batteries sits ravaged in a cupboard. It once held nearly two dozen life giving cylinders of power. Now? Well, there are two sitting in form fitting plastic. I'm certain we will be finding a home for them before the day is done.

    I once made the lofty vow that I would NOT allow my children to own anything that required a battery. You see, I had this utopian dream that by refusing to allow electronic games and toys in our home there would be a reduction in the mindless waste of brain cells. My children would develop wondrous imaginations if for no other reason than they ran out of other, more popular, options. "There's nothing else to do, might as well save the fabled Big Foot in the mountains of Washington while riding a Jell-O® filled unicorn."

    O how I lamented the day when a caring, but less informed, grandparent brought something as profane as an electronic gizmo for my baby daughter to play with. It flashed primary colors and played fun little songs that made her coo. Maybe she would forget about it and the toy could go the way of all useless trash.

    More than 10 years have passed and an erosion of will occurred. In the end, I find many electronic toys and games that have found their way into my home. Some are just for fun; some have an educational component to them and they all need batteries - lots and lots of batteries.

    Oh, and as far as the imagination issue is concerned, I am happy to report that both of my children have very active and healthy imaginations. Each night my youngest asks me to tell him a story and sheepishly my eleven year old daughter will ask me to do the same from time to time. Often they add their own spin to the yarn.

    Being a parent sometimes has more to do with finding the right means of reaching an end result. Sometimes where we want to go can't be accessed by using the method we assumed was the only correct method. It may surprise you, but our children do not always respond the way we thought they would.

    You see, the message we want to teach our children might not be understood using the exact same method by which we were parented or by going to an equal and opposite extreme. There are times when tradition is an important means of conveying our family legacy. However, when we parents don't adapt to a flexible environment, either our children break or we do.

    We are cheerleaders in a complicated game of life and our children need us to help them though some very difficult scrimmages. The help they most often need is the assurance of our love, acceptance and willingness to stand strong in the tough times.

    There are lots of hills to stand and fight on. How important is the hill you're defending?

    Two questions…

    As a parent, what traditions, values or skills do you feel are most important to pass on to your child?

    Does the current battle with your child help or hinder your ability to pass those things along?

    Written by Glenn A. HascallRate this article:

    © FamilyLobby.com - E-Mail this article - Print this article

      del.icio.us    StumbleUponStumbleUpon      

    Post a comment

    Post Comment

    FamilyLobby.com Articles is your source for family-related articles. Talk about this article in the FamilyLobby Community.

    Create a free family website at FamilyLobby.com