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    Biff Flabsnatcher and the Busted Spleen

    By Glenn A. Hascall     

    "What exactly are you listening to?" a daughter is asked as she dances in her room decorated in designer clothes carpet.

    "It's the new mp3 I downloaded from Biff Flabsnatcher and the Busted Spleen. They rock, Dad," the daughter says as she resumes trying to sing the words to a song you thought was wordless except for the noise that sounds something like a cat being used as an accordion.

    "Do they need medical attention?" Dad asks.

    "What?" she yells over the music.

    "Never mind," Dad smiles as he closes the door.

    Every day there are moments when it seems a cultural divide drives parents from their children or visa versa. Whether it is clothes, musical tastes or some sort of new language known only to those under twenty there is a cultural divide that seems to happen on a regular basis about the time adolescence hits.

    Interestingly that divide in some ways has become smaller than it once was. It is not as uncommon today for parents and children to agree on the same radio station to listen to. You may even find parents and children at the same concert together (although often separated by the lure of the front stage and friends.

    Whether it's electronic games, music or a cell phone text messaging craze it's important to keep the lines of communication open with your child. They are going through a significant change from childhood to adulthood and they're not sure where you, or they, fit in the process. They want to be grown up, but want to be a child at times too. They want independence, but aren't always prepared for the consequences of their independence. They want your trust, but often mess things up.

    By trying to mix a bit of guidance with a fair dose of understanding or, dare I even say the word, interest in the things your child is interested in you may find that your child will maintain an openness with you that you hadn't really thought possible.

    You don't have to act like a teenager to connect with your child. The truth is, your child DOES NOT want you acting like a teenager, Trust me, it embarrasses them.

    Adolescence is a difficult time for both child and parent, but it can be the start of a gradual move from a child/parent relationship to a peer/peer relationship.

    Even in adolescence your child needs you much more than they will admit stick with it and never abandon ship.

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