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    Dating After Divorce

    By Kristen Houghton     

    When you’re part of a married couple you never think about the dreaded “D” word; divorce. But with one out of five marriages ending in separation or divorce, the safety we find in being a couple is tenuous. At some point any one of us can find ourselves thrust, unwillingly, into the “divorced person’s dating game.”

    What do we do when we are no longer part of a couple? What happens when “we” reverts back to “me?” How do we face the prospect of putting ourselves on display out there again?

    First of all look at the whole package you present as yourself. Are you the same person you were before marriage? Emotionally and mentally you have changed. You’ve matured, lived some, and have a good idea of who you are. That makes you better.

    What about physically? Have you kept your self attractive? Do you like what you see in the mirror or is it time for a change? A new hairstyle, new make-up and clothes can make you feel and look good. A good exercise and nutritional program can also do wonders for attitude and a glowing appearance.

    Are you contemplating a bigger change in your looks?

    A documentary aired a few years ago mentioned that more divorced women, and an increasing number of divorced men, were seeking the services of cosmetic surgeons than ever before. They were eager to enter the dating game looking as good as they could.

    Whatever you decide about making changes, just be sure to be reasonable and not do something drastic. Start with small changes; they may be all you need.

    Check your mental attitude. Are you bitter and angry over the divorce? If you are, begin making “attitude adjustments” that will help you put that part of your life in an area that won’t impact your present and future. It’s called the past for a reason.

    Be true to yourself. Now is a good time to think about what you want out of a new relationship. Be completely honest about this.

    Ask yourself if you’re really ready to start dating again. Rushing into a relationship simply to avoid being alone is not beneficial to anyone and will likely end in disaster.

    When you’re ready to date, decide the best place for you to socialize. Make a list of your interests so you’ll find like-minded people.

    Know yourself and respect your own ideas and judgments. Don’t sacrifice what you truly want just to be part of a “we” again.

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