| | | | Staying Together for the Kids’ Sake |
By Kristen Houghton
Every parent makes sacrifices but staying in an unhappy marriage is a sacrifice that helps no one; not you, not your children. If you believe you can keep your kids in the dark about what is happening in your marriage, you’re wrong. Even the youngest child has a gut feeling that things are not as they should be. Children are sensitive beings who sense unhappiness and tension.
The emotional stress and damage that a child receives from living in a household where fighting and angry looks occur is tremendous. They are ten times more likely to have dysfunctional relationships of their own in later life. These children fare better having divorced parents living in separate residences.
Children who live in homes where the parents are pleasant and cordial to each other, even though no longer sharing a marital bed, learn that there are polite ways to deal with life’s issues. Their parents have a marriage of convenience. The children benefit from having their parents stay together because there is no spousal animosity or stressful situation.
Every couple’s issues are different. Staying together for your kids’ sake only works if you and your spouse treat each other with kindness and consideration, balancing the needs of both parents and children. Couples who constantly fight should not stay together for their children. It harms more than it helps.
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Families are not disposable or replacable! There is a reason you got married in the first place & took an Oath Under God! Quit blaming your spouse for your unhappiness, realize that life is NOT all about YOU. This article irritates me because it is enabling taking the easy way out and too pro divorce for me. Divorce affects every one in your life, every day for ever and ever. Divorce is what does more harm than it helps!
Heather
Tough question. I would say that is a case by case basis. Some kids need two parent homes while others can adjust to the adversity that life can bring. It would also depend on how the couple managed their differences. If it is in anger than they should not be together, but if it is tolerable and it can be done, than I think it's important.
I think the children should come first, so it would depend on what's best for them.
ChristineB
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